Merry and serious¶
Merry / Serious, also known as Subjectivist / Objectivist or Ascending / Descending, is one of the 15 Reinin dichotomies.
Merry and serious types¶
Typical characteristics¶
Merry¶
Good at noticing emotional background and perceive the emotional aspect (particularly ‘fun’) separate from the activity.
‘Getting to know someone’ happens naturally, and they are well aware of the purpose(s) for which they are meeting. The proper emotional distance is easily established, adapted/regulated, and manipulated, and they easily decrease distance through their emotional ‘brilliance’. A person’s name (and other formalities) are peripheral to their relation with and interest in them, and thus they don’t care much about formal introductions..
Not inclined to deduce ‘objective truths’ from their own and others’ experiences everything is relative. This relativity is perceived as an extenuation of the differing beliefs, opinions, intentions, etc. of each person. Accordingly, another person’s actions are judged as correct or incorrect according to a set of subjective criteria. They attempt to compare others’ views to their own, and to explain their own views in order to make sure that all parties understand the concepts being spoken of.
They are inclined to propose (or impose) another conception of the situation (‘look at it this way’). If they think something is done incorrectly, they will ask WHY it was done that way. When talking about optimums, they are inclined to do it subjectively (‘optimum compared to what?’).
Fun is involvement, active participation; a state of constant excitement that one cannot confuse with leisure or rest. I have my own ideas about how things should be done a ‘mind of my own’ but so does everyone else.
Serious¶
Bad at noticing emotional background and do not separate the emotional aspect (particularly ‘fun’) from the activity.
Acquaintance with others is established by ritual (e.g., introduction), and they prefer if the context of interaction is externally set (eg, by a mediator (think ‘arranged marriages’) or situation) so that they can skip the first phases and begin closer interaction. They approach others through stages defined by ‘rules’ and ‘rituals’, which may be created by themselves and/or already existing; thus, they are very aware of the stages of the process of acquaintance e.g., when a person is no longer a stranger. The title, name, and any other information about the other person are considered important, and for this reason formal introduction is important.
Inclined to believe there are ‘objective truths’ the truth is not always relative. Therefore, they believe that there are two types of actions/perspectives: those which are subjective (connected with personal preferences and motivations) and those which are objective (only one ‘correct’ or ‘best’ way of doing something). Whether something is correct or not is judged by comparing it with what they see as ‘objectively correct’. In disagreement, they first attempt to make sure that the other person understands the concepts and terms ‘correctly’.
They are inclined to offer (or impose) what they see as the ‘best’ or ‘correct’ way of doing something (‘it should be done like this’). If they think something is done incorrectly, they ask WHO did it that way. When speaking of optimums, they are inclined to do so objectively (the ‘absolute’ optimum).
It is difficult for me to differentiate between activity/work and fun; work is necessarily fun without an element of entertainment, it would be impossible If something is being done the wrong way? Oy! IMO, there is only one proper way to ‘hammer a nail’
Extended characteristics¶
Taken from 2003 study of Reinin traits.
Subjectivists¶
Subjectivists are good at noticing the general emotional background that accompanies contact with people (For example: enthusiasm, fun, stress and so on). Fun (as, probably, every other emotional experience) for them is allocated into a separate aspects of activity (to a question “what were you doing” they can answer “we were having fun”they perceive emotional engagement as a separate type of activity)
Subjectivist types do not perceive “getting to know somebody” as a special kind of activity, in contrast to Serious types, for whom it is a kind of a ritual. They know very well why they are getting acquainted (the purpose of this acquaintance is interest, business, travel, and so on). In contrast to the Objectivist types, they do not divide the process of getting acquainted into consecutive stages. They immediately establish the necessary emotional distance in contact and can regulate it as needed. To bridge the gap between poorly acquainted people in a group they amp up the emotional tonethis can be mutually experienced happiness or misfortune. The “name” of the person is of secondary relevance for them. Interest towards the person and relations is primary here, thus Merry types do not consider formality as a necessary part of becoming acquainted with someone.
The Subjectivist, in contrast to the Objectivist, is not inclined to derive “objectively accurate” rules and regularities, generalizing for this purpose his own experiences and experiences of others. Instead, the Subjectivist assumes that other people have different criteria and their own views on any situation, therefore he determines whether his or someone else’s actions were correct or incorrect by comparing them with his “subjective” viewhe evaluates them in accordance to his personal concepts, “his system”, his intentions, and so on. Subjectivist are inclined to propose (or impose) not the “correct way” or another way to do things, but an entire conceptual framework on the subject i.e. they do not say “Do this differently” but rather “Look at it in another way”. They do not think, in contrast to Objectivists, that in every situation there exists only one “objectively correct/true” way of doing somethingin their opinion, there are many different ways of looking at and approaching a given situation. When they feel something was done incorrectly, they will likely ask: “What are you doing?” (In contrast to Objectivists who are likely to ask “Who does it this way?”). When they speak of optimality, they mean optimality within the framework of their idea or concept, within the framework of their subjective approach (from which point of view is it most optimal and in comparison to what). Therefore they strive to contrast other people’s views to their own and to explain their position (to verify concepts): “If this is what is meant, we do this, if something else is meant, we do it differently.”
“Comparison and verification of concepts” is a common phenomenon among Subjectivists. It concerns not only their methods, but also their understanding, terminology, and so on. Subjectivists are attuned to the fact that different people might understand and interpret different concepts and terms differently. They perceive terminology as well as actions of other people as a part of the subjective concept inseparable from personal opinion, position, intent, etc.: “So we have agreed that we shall call it this way”. In contrast to Objectivists who perceive terminology as “objective”, Subjectivists understand personal differences behind terminilogy (this applies even to well established terms) and they attempt to compare and verify them (“Well you say this, but I think it’s not so, but so-and-so”).
Lexicon: when discussing actions and joint activities they use expressions such as “From my point of view”, “According to my understanding”, “To my knowledge”, “personal criteria”, “it corresponds to my understanding” “I have concluded” “he insisted” and so on. They describe verbal communication in detailhow their intervention in the situation is transpiring or why it’s not happening.
Objectivists¶
Serious types poorly recognize common emotional background; they do not perceive emotionally infused conceptions (for example “fun”) as separate and substitute them with interpretations that have no direct emotional elements. (Instead of the word “fun” they may use “entertainment”, “leisure”, “pleasure”, and so on). They do not perceive emotional exchange as a separate occurrence and are inclined to mix it with other mutual matters (They can have fun while working, or engage in serious affairs while having fun.)
For Serious types, becoming acquainted with a new person constitutes a special ritual necessary for bridging the distance (If this ritual did not take place, then Serious types do not consider themselves to be acquainted, for example: “We did not introduce ourselves”). In such situations, for the Serious types it is easier if the degree of emotional distance was externally predetermined i.e. if it was set by some sort of “mediator”, whether this be a person or circumstances of a given situationthis allows them to skip the first stages of becoming acquainted and move on to a closer dialogue and contact. For bridging the distance between strangers, Serious types create certain rules or rituals (or they use already existing ones) for the step-by-step association. They know the process of becoming acquainted very well (how a stranger becomes a familiar). For association, Serious type needs to know the name, title, any other information that describes the new persontherefore formal introduction for them is a very important stage of getting acquainted with someone.
Objectivists have a notion of what constitutes “objectively known” facts, rules, laws, regularities held in general (common) experience; in their perception there exist rules and guidelines that are “true in general” and “always correct”. They suppose that other people can have their own views and positions, but do not consider that any action can be viewed as correct/incorrect only from a certain point of view (they allow for the existence of “objectively correct” actions). Therefore, from the point of view of an Objectivist, actions can be differentsubjective, determined by personal preferences and motives, and objective, where there is only one “correct”, “most effective” way to do something. Objectivists define actions as correct or incorrect contrasting them to their representation of what is “objectively correct”. When they think that there is only one optimal solution, they are inclined to propose (or impose) ways to accomplish an activity (not their views or concepts like Subjectivists) which they think are the best: “No, do it the right way”. When speaking of optimality, they speak of optimality in general”objective optimality” (they consider that they know the “correct”, “generally optimal” ways of doing something). In joint activities they offer the “most effective” way of doing something. In disagreement they do not compare and verify concepts, but instead check whether the other person knows the “correct”, “generally accepted”, “established” concepts and terms.
In contrast to Subjectivists, Objectivists are not inclined to compare and verify concepts. They assume that these can have only one unique interpretation (“correct”, “accurate” one)often they do not think about the fact that the other person may be interpreting them differently, within a different conceptual framework. They operate with concepts such as “objective reality”, “unequivocal facts”, and do not attempt to verify concepts: “This is called with this term”. They consider that they know the “right” way of doing things, how something “really is” (they acknowledge only a certain picture of the world, one that is “objectively true”): “You say it’s like this, while in reality is like that”.
In description of actions or in discussion of joint activities instead of “explanatory” lexicon they give a lot of examples (all “correct” and “incorrect” modes of actions are depicted in these examples).
Notes
In this research, the hypothesis about the quadra related nature of entertainment has been show to be untrue. Also proven to be untrue was the widespread conviction that people of Serious types will not publicly display and behave in a “childish” manner. Probably in the majority of such cases (for example when adult people roll themselves down a snow hill), the situation serves as an intermediary and relaxes the existing interpersonal boundaries.
Hypotheses
Dichotomy Ethics-Logic strengthens one of the attributes of this trait: Ethics strengthens Subjectivism, while LogicObjectivism.
Examples
Merry/Subjectivists: “Fun is a lot of emotion… company of friends, where we can exchange news, possibly go have something to eat, sing a song” “Fun is getting involved, when you actively participate. When you watch or read something, this is educational, but fun is an active state of constant excitement, something one cannot confuse with leisure (restful state)… perhaps fun for me is an animated dialogue that (as opposed to a fight, quarrel, etc.) is pleasant” “Reading books, opera - this is not fun… fun is heightened vitality” “Fun is a state of liberation when everyone is not being very serious” “Fun is pleasure, recklessness, everyone participates, some boundaries may get crossed” “If I’m in a company of new people and nobody introduces me, for me it is not a problem to introduce myself” “The majority of people with whom I chat, I may not know their full name” “The process of coming into contact can consist of any steps, becoming acquainted is not necessary” “For me, in company, the names of others are not important” “I remembered what his name was only after a week, even though we had already passionately kissed (about meeting her future husband)” “When I see that someone doing something wrong, I first have to check if that is any of my business. If it concerns me, then my first reaction is to step back and let him have enough… I have my own criteria for how things should be. Other people may have their own criteria” “First, put down the axe, then explain why you are doing that” “I assumed that I have said all that was relevant to the given theme/topic”
Serious/Objectivists: “It is difficult for me to distinguish work activities apart from fun. Fun is difficult to define …” “I approach everything seriously, even rest” “It is always possible to find something entertaining/zany in the serious, and vice versa” “Studying should be fun. Work without an entertaining element is impossible” “What constitutes “fun” to me is not clear, what is leisure - that is clear, what is entertainment - that is also clear” “It is important that I get introduced when I’m in company of people I never met before, or better yet, that they have been told a little about myself” “I engage another person on conditions that he/she has proposed, I do not engage the person if I do not know whether the contact will be “pleasant” for him/her” “I do not like it when other people “thrust” themselves upon me or when it is done to others, for example, if suddenly my aunt whom I’m seeing for the first time starts calling me “honey” or use some other endearing expression” “The name is important. If a person does not state their name, it often means that they do not want to have a conversation” “If it is done the wrong way? Oy! It is easier for me to grab it and do it myself than to waste my time explaining. In my opinion there is only one way to “hammer a nail”” “There are things with which it is clear that some methods are futile/fruitless and that there are more effective ways of doing it. It’s very irritating when a person consistently fails to see this and keeps choosing inappropriate methods” “When I see something performed ineffectively it makes my stomach churn” “It is painful for me to see something that contradicts common sense and I can do nothing about it. If I can interfere with the situation, I will do so regardless of whether or not it concerns me” “The methods habitual to the person within the framework of his/her experience are not the same thing as objective method of doing things (this is evident by the results)”.
Theoretical properties of merry and serious types¶
Merry/serious corresponds with the valued/ subdued dichotomy for rational information elements:
Merry types (Alphas and Betas) have valued
and subdued 
.Serious types (Gammas and Deltas) have valued
and subdued .